Regulating in Relationship

My wife has always said, "There's nothing more healing in life than a healthy relationship." She's right. It's essential to our resiliency to have people in our lives that we trust. The science behind this is equally compelling.

We are not born knowing how to regulate ourselves. At first, we only achieve this through movement, often rocking. Later, we learn to regulate off our caregivers. This never fully goes away. We are continually assessing if the people we come into contact with are a good model to regulate off. In work settings, these are often people who are open, supportive, and easy for you to talk to. While self regulation is foundational, we also regulate off those around us.

• Some make us feel calm.
• Some make us feel excited.
• And others make us feel frantic or confused.

Connection

Connection is the competency of having strong relationships, supporting others, and having positive and effective communication skills. By having a Connection, you can easily communicate with people and you know how to help people feel better and support them. Building trust is the moment essential component to building a connection with others.

While looking at your roles as healthcare professionals, the environment can often get stressful and having a good support system, whether at home or work, can help you better deal with the situations you are facing. Building this connection can also help with team work and your connections as a unit and a team, allowing you and your team members better communicate and, as a result, work better together to find/provide the solutions or comfort you need.

Who are the people in your life that help you understand trust?

Utilize the skills of mind, body, and emotion when you answer this. Noticing how this affects your self-regulation.

Primary Takeaways

1. Self awareness can help us answer the question: "What types of people do I need in my life?"
2. Self regulation can help us maintain healthy long-term relationships

Who are the people in your life that make you feel excited?

What are some things you do now to maintain these relationships?

Challenge:

Think about 2-3 people you work with that you appreciate being in their presence. Make a note on how they make you feel in:

• your body
• your thoughts
• emotionally

How can you better leverage these people in your life?

Professional Sustainability

Connection and trust in our work has been shown to increase the following:

• Cohesion
• Collaboration
• Wellness
• Retention

When you read those words, who are the people in your life that come to mind?

• Cohesion:
• Collaboration:
• Wellness:
• Retention:

To Take A Deeper Dive

World renowned researcher, author, and speaker Brene Brown's breakthrough TedTalk on vulnerability made her a household name. Daring Greatly pairs wonderfully with today's topic on connection.

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